Post by @colinstu@birdbutt.com
I miss the days of Pidgin and proper old IM protocols. And no smartphone. And having to wake up and get out of bed and boot that all up and settle in.
I hate this expectation that I’m online and accessible 24/7. And that if I didn’t read and/or reply right away I’m somehow ignoring etc… no. I got a life I need to deal with. I’ll get to the conversations when I can.
Now it’s just rollover in bed and see folks pining for attention on TG on phone and if I don’t give it I’m the bad guy. 😭
@colinstu I mean, you still can. I have notifications turned off everywhere including my phone. I do have a visual indicator for text messages (but not audio) and I have a very short allowlist for who can cause my phone to ring as a phone. if some people think I'm an asshole for it then I don't care to interact with those people anyway.
if I want to check a platform for messages then I'll decide when I want to do that, open that platform to look, and close it when I'm done until the next time I want to check.
@colinstu Hmm I guess you could try changing your habits and only check group messages when you're free. I usually just mute the groups, I've always treated IMs more like a DM tool. tbh I don't really worry about responding instantly either, because I don't usually keep them running in the background on my computer, I just open them whenever it crosses my mind.
@colinstu@birdbutt.com i deleted my fb account for this reason (among others), people assume you are available and message there, and I didn't have it on my phone so never got back to them - even people that have my phone number. The solution was to delete my account entirely.
@nigel @colinstu@birdbutt.com
Whatsapp is even worse.
I was in Indonesia, where everybody uses whatsapp all the time.
(Needless to say I don't).
Hotel and agencies used to message me and the stupid thing did not even tell them I was not on whatsapp!!!!
Took me a while to understand what was going on.
@francois @colinstu@birdbutt.com oh wow thats crazy; I am guessing you had whatsapp at some point then?
I have had that before where a service thought I was reachable because I had signed up to it in the past and there was no way to delete an account as far as I could tell. So I just didnt use it anymore, and one would think that if you haven't used their app for some time it should notify the sender, right...? Wrong, apparently.